A 14-Year-Old’s Take on Love and Heartbreak
“Don’t apologize for telling what you feel. It’s like being sorry for being real.”
Going through a failed personal relationship must be a lot to handle for a ninth-grader. Be that as it may, Rhei Ayem Pavillion, a 14-year-old teenager, lives up to his own quote as he openly shares the story of how Puds, his girlfriend, broke up with him.
“Ewan ko nga rin po e. Sabi n’ya, nanlamig daw po s’ya sa’kin.”
Before the unfortunate breakup, their relationship started well just like almost every love tale.
“[Noong] grade 8 po, magkaklase po kami. Special science [section] po ako noon. Palagi po kasi kaming magkatabi, magkasunod po ‘yung pangalan namin. Tapos sa mga groupings po, magka-grupo po kami. Kung hindi po ako ‘yung leader, siya po – ako po ‘yung assistant. Hanggang sa naging close po kami, pati sa FB nag-uusap kami hanggang ala-una. Minsan umaabot ng alas-tres po. Noong third grading po, niligawan ko na po s’ya.”
By then, they already have a mutual understanding. It only took Rhei a nudge to finally win the girl’s heart.
“Hinahatid ko po s’ya, tapos noong malapit na po kami sa bahay nila, tinanong ko po. Kung pwede pong manligaw. Umoo naman po.Sinagot n’ya na rin po ko doon mismo.”
Romance was an uncharted territory for them, but they eventually worked that out as they became familiar with each other’s presence.
“Hindi na po kami nahihiya sa isa’t-isa. Dati po kasi nahihiya po s’yang makipag-holding hands sa’kin. Kinukusa ko po s’ya. Bigla ko na lang hahawakan ‘yung kamay n’ya. Hanggang pag-uwi po.”
They are young and still have things to learn as pointed out by their parents.
Rhei came from a broken home and is the eldest among five siblings. His mother, who he lives with, approved of the budding romance provided that he performs well in school and still be responsible for the duties around the house. It was a relief. He then proceeded to know the girl’s family which, of course, is not easy for any man, let alone for a growing one.
“Kinakabahan po ako. Parang wala po akong napapakinggan no’n. Pinapaulit ko na lang po ‘yung tanong kapag tinatanong po ako. Sabi po: ‘Eto?’ Gumano’n po ‘yung tatay n’ya.”
Later on, Puds’ parents blessed them with an advice to take things easy.
Except for some bumps in the road, everything else went fine for almost a year. Until Puds decided to end the relationship through a Facebook message, which Rhei took as a joke but soon realized that it was not. The latter then had to deal with the breakup.
“Kung ano pong gusto n’ya, masaya rin po ako.”
In times like this, Rhei copes by having some alone time and writing his thoughts, which usually shape up to profound quotations:
“Love does not hurt, loving the wrong person does hurt.”
As sensitive as he may seem, Rhei is quite a well-rounded teen with various interests. One of which is to read books of different genres, mostly fiction and science. His favorite titles are the Harry Potter Series; and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. Aside from being a bookworm, Rhei joins dance competitions in school, and tries to learn playing the guitar in his free time. He likes hanging out with friends but also enjoys moments of solitude.
Rhei is now going through some tough time with his relationships, and he admits that there are still things he has to figure out yet, including future plans.
On what course to take in college:
“Hindi ko pa naiisip ‘yon . Kung ano na lang po compatible sakin, kung ano ‘yung pwede kong pasukan.”
On why he is at Luneta:
“Nararamdaman ko po na parang buo po ulit kami dito ng pamilya ko. Dito rin po kami nagbo-bonding kasama ‘yung girlfriend ko po.”
Words and Photos by Trixie Bautista